When you’re planning your wedding, there’s a lot to learn. For many of us, this is the first (and only) time you’re going to do this, so it’s a steep learning curve with only one shot to get it right! Looking online and in magazines, and asking friends and family for their two-pennies worth, it’s clear there is a wealth of often contradicting advice on how it should be done.
The flower department is no exception. The magazine might suggest reserving 10% of your budget for flowers and venue decor, the trendy DIY wedding blog might suggest popping to your local farmers market the day before your wedding and getting the girls together to create your floral decorations, or your cousin Sarah might tell you that her florist advised on seasonal flowers to help her modest budget go further.
Traditionally, there are several girls and boys who would anticipate having flowers for their part in the day. I suppose it could be generalised as those who will be prominent in playing a roll in the service and seen in all the photos.
The blushing bride of course, her bridesmaids, and flower girls all carry a bouquet of flowers.
The groom, his best man (or men), and the ushers have a buttonhole – a single flower or small collection of flowers, worn on their left lapel. Often, the couple’s dads wear a buttonhole, and mums wear a corsage.
From there, it’s up to you how far out through the guest list you continue with a little gift of flowers to wear – grandparents, siblings, the person leading the ceremony, the family pet pooch, all the guests…
Years ago, before table favours became a trend, each guest would receive a flower buttonhole at the church door as a gift of thanks for coming to the day. In modern times, as the wedding day itself has become more involved and intricate, with the provision of the wedding breakfast and evening buffet, dancing, drinks, and favours, it is less common to provide a flower for each person attending. Instead, if they’d like a floral adornment, they organise it for themselves.
It really is up to you! The theme and style of your day will obviously play a part in your decision, as will your budget.